From the moment I became a stay at home mom earlier this year, I felt like I constantly “didn’t have time” to do things. I threw this phrase around like nothing. And for my husband, I used it as an excuse as to why the dishes weren’t done or the laundry wasn’t put away (sorry babe!). This type of mentality was taking me over! Like I was brainwashing myself. The end result was worse – guilt. I completely beat myself up about this; definitely not healthy!
With a newborn/infant I felt like I couldn’t move or do ANYTHING else unless they were napping. I wouldn’t make a call, check emails, or even make lunch for myself. Going to the store was a definite no because I’d lose my mind if baby Ezra started crying. It’s a terrible terrible mentality that I soaked myself into. My productivity went down the drain.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my baby relentlessly, but I handled everything so wrong that I let the days escape me. Well, I hit a breaking point. I truly understood that if no big change happened I’d grow old and do nothing with my life. Ok, that’s a bit dramatic, but that’s how I felt.
I’m sure I’m not alone in this and many mamas have probably gone through this. As a first-time mom, I didn’t know what to expect. But I truly hope to encourage you and share some tips on how I got out of this rut! I found a place of productivity and most of all happiness. Here we go: the 3 things that helped me stop wasting time as a stay at home mom.
I FOUND AN OUTLET
Not only was I wasting my days, but my postpartum depression crept up on me. I didn’t even know I had it until my son’s pediatrician gave me a referral at 4 months. But after hearing this I wanted to put up a fight. I didn’t want this to control me and I didn’t want to start on anti-depressants (no shame if you do take them, I have nothing against them!). Instead, I shifted my focus to something I loved. AKA blogging! I completely fell in love and all my negative energy, negative thoughts got turned into positive ones.
Not only do I love it, but it gives me a sense of accountability. I keep a content calendar, so I know when I’m posting and feel obligated to. I owe it to my readers! Being completely honest, blogging has, in a way, organized my life.
CHANGED THE WAY I MANAGE MY HOME
With blogging, I learned how to prioritize. I love writing about self-development, mom life, and of course beauty, but I didn’t want to write tips and advice on things I couldn’t do myself. So, if I was writing about a productive morning routine, I seriously wanted it to be MY morning routine.
I wanted to be able to maintain a home, care for my baby, and run a successful blog. Be a boss babe, you know> Writing content was difficult in a messy home, so I cleaned up every morning (first thing I did) and night (last thing before bed). I wanted to batch my blog work to spend quality time with Ezra during the day, so I got up early, sat on my couch with some coffee, and typed away. Over time these things became habits and I’m slaying like no one’s business!
Over time I added more household chores to either the morning or night time. My mentality turned from ‘not having enough time’ to ‘9-5 full-time job.’ I organized it as my ‘mom job’ starting from when my husband left for his (real) job to the moment he got home. So, any household needs had to get done either before my husband left or after he got home. Meal prepping, writing blog content, cleaning up the house, laundry, etc. This gave me more time to spend with my baby during the day and freed up space to focus on my blog.
Again, this way of thinking simply gave my brain a type of organization. Being a mom is never-ending, I know and love that! Everybody may not be able to do this and sometimes it’s not always like this. But the way my mind differentiates tasks helps a lot because my priority is set on my family.
SET ASIDE SELF CARE TIME
Getting burnout was one of my biggest fears. I’d get all hyped up, feeling like I accomplish anything, then I plan too much without any breathing room. A self-care routine was exactly what I needed! Setting aside time for yourself is super important! It will not only de-stress you but increase your productivity throughout the week. You’ll feel refreshed. Check out what I do for my self-care routine right here!
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